Guys, I’m going to tell you a little secret that I hope doesn’t break your heart to much. You WON’T be able to talk dirty over text with every girl. Its just not possible. Why is this? Because, the same way where you might be struggling with how to flirt – a lot of girls have the exact same problem, They SUCK at flirting back.
When you DO meet a girl that has really good social skills and can flirt back, it is awesome and a lot of fun. But just to warn you – not all girls are the same. So the good news is that it is not entirely your fault.
So with that being said, here are some things that you can do in order to see if she will be able to flirt back.
The first thing that you have to do is introduce “flirty” words (I sometimes call them power words) Then see if she takes the bait. I personally like the word ‘Massage’ the best.
If you send a girl a text and say something like, “Wow it was such a long day and I’m tired, I would kill to know a professional masseuse right now.”
By sending out a text like that, you will be able to gauge her flirt level. For example, if she messages you back and says something like, “I know, my day was pretty busy too.” Well you know that you’re going to have to work a lot harder to get her to flirt back.
But if she says something like, “I have amazing massage skills.” Then you know that she is ready to flirt a little heavier with you. At this point you would say something like, “okay, how about you show me your massage skills and I’ll show you my cooking skills.”
Note: Mentioning to women that you can cook is a GREAT way to get her to come over or for you to go over her place. Tell her that you are going to cook her something from your secret recipe book.
You can also flirt with her through text messages by mentioning that you can teach her something. This is why you want to have an interesting lifestyle and always be learning new things.
There are a million possibilities of things that you could teach her but a really easy example is salsa dancing. You can mention to her that you have taken a few salsa dance lessons and that you’re going to teach her some salsa moves. You can make the conversation flirty by being playful and saying things like, “I just learned some new spins and dips so I hope you’re ready for a little adventure.”
Now she might say, “Oh I like that it sounds fun.” Then you could say, “Good because I’m just learning, so my salsa (insert any skill that you are learning) is a little rough.” Now if she says back to you, “That’s okay I like it a little rough ;)” NOW you’re flirting and on your way to talking dirty with her.
Another thing that you can do to talk dirty with a girl through text is called, “going deep.” This means that you really want to find out about her and ask intimate questions. You are going ‘Deeper” in the conversation and asking her things that she wouldn’t be asked in everyday normal conversation. Start off by asking her about something adventurous that she has done. Example: “what are the top three wild/adventurous things that you’ve done?”
She will tell you stories which will allow her to open up to you. When she opens up like this it creates more tension and intimacy. From here you will simply “steer” the conversation in a sexual direction. Once you are having a more intimate conversation you can then start to ask her sexual questions.
As she becomes more comfortable with you, you can then ask about her favorite sexual position etc. But it all starts off by “going deeper.” By asking her more personal questions and then steering the conversation in a sexual direction.
If you want to see a flirty text conversation step-by-step then I highly recommend my book called the “Crush Formula” It will show you in more detail how to flirt through text, and it’s less than 30 bucks.